Not For Sale At Any Price
Many years ago there were two nations of Native Americans. They were constantly at war with one another. One of these groups was a bit more aggressive and their only desire was to conquer and control all people of the land. Often these two nations found themselves at war with one another.
On one such occasion, the aggressive group found themselves in a position in which they were about to fall in defeat. The two groups met to discuss options and an ultimatum was presented. Either you make an oath to lay down your weapons of war and never come to battle against us again or we will continue to battle until you are completely defeated.
An oath at that time was taken very seriously. And because of their hatred for them, they knew that they could never make and keep such a promise. So they declined to make the oath and resumed the war. After another surge of force, the aggressive nation was ultimately defeated and many more lives were lost.
Notice how important their word was to them. They would rather die than make an oath that they could not keep. How different are we today? Do we take our oaths and promises that seriously? Is our word our bond? I believe that too many people today take the concept of our word too lightly. If we were to take this principle more seriously, I believe that we would discover our lives would be filled with a lot more peace and happiness. With the lack of integrity increasing rapidly in our society and slowly becoming accepted and in some cases even excused, our moral fabric is beginning to decay. If this break down continues it will ultimately affect and even destroy the very core of our social and personal lives.
A couple of weeks ago I found myself returning to a car dealership to have my oil changed. The last time I went in I had a really good experience. The shop manager spent time with me and helped me feel like I was the most important customer he had. He sold me on their commitment to great customer service. This visit I was in a bit of a rush and they promised to have me out in no more than an hour and a half. (yeah I know, who would agree to an hour and a half oil change?) but I did hope that they could do I a bit quicker.
When almost 2 hours had passed, I approached the man who had given me that “great service” and asked him where my car was. All he could do was make excuses. I wonder what happened to the great customer service he prided himself on? But more importantly, what happened to his word? We need to remember that “People of integrity and honesty not only practice what they preach, they are what they preach.” (Bednar, 05.)
A popular clinical psychologist (Hap LeCrone, 2001) who writes for Fox News Service said: “Going against and violating our moral code slowly chips away at our self-esteem, leaving us less and less able to make healthy choices. When one's integrity is defended, self-esteem is enhanced, so exercising strong moral judgment builds self-esteem.”
So how much is your word worth? What are you willing to do to be sure that whomever you interact with will have no doubt that you will tell them the truth or follow through with what you said you would do? Do you want to leave any doubt? When we focus on presenting the best versions of ourselves to everyone we meet we are guaranteed to increase our self-image and self-confidence. Yes, we will be able to accomplish anything because the energy of truth will radiate from our very being and will convince others of our ability to be trusted and to be a good companion.
Bednar, David A. (2005, October). Be Honest
Lecrone, H. (2001, March 11). Integrity, Self-esteem Go Hand In Hand. Retrieved from http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2001-03-11/news/0103110339_1_healthy-self-esteem-integrity-child